The tussle of wanting to connect — What draws me to a person? The eyes What do I usually avoid when I look at a person? The eyes It’s paradoxical that we avoid what connects us Yet also perfectly reasonable, because it’s… vulnerable There is something telling about the eyes Well, in fact, everything is told through the…

And why it’s nothing at all — A labelling exercise to calm my critical, striving, and judgemental mind. Opening to my emotional & mental insecurities — Feel with intensity. Susceptible to self-judgment and criticism. Perfectionistic. Procrastinator. Dreamer. Lack of focus. Opinionated. Self-focused. Not detail-oriented. Not mathematically inclined. Trust easily. Chases new experiences. Opening to my emotional &…

Through Guanyin and a human friend — I was not raised to be religious. Yet I could not resist getting this elegant Guanyin statue when I first saw it. Till today I don’t call myself a Buddhist or an atheist… or whatever. Yet I found profound spirituality in my own simple journey. I don’t do rituals or…

Again — Have you ever arrived at a point in life and realized you are not who you think you are at all? Like zilch. The rug pulled from right under your feet. It’s scary and at times in the past depressing. But all in all, I see it as a joyful…

My response to #PracticingGentleness month — There is an extremely feminine and sensual side of me that is vulnerable to show. There is also a wild womanly side of me that felt impossible to flow. My whole life good, intellectual, rational, and packaged. I long to tear everything down. …

The irony of practicing mindfulness — It’s an irony right from the beginning. When learning mindfulness, the suggestion is to come up with a disciplined routine to mess up existing ‘routines’. A practice to build a habit to undo the existing habits. The habits of perpetual doing. The autopilot mode. Does the mind like to fix…

The unorthodox guide to confidence — How many of us feels 100% ready before we dive into anything important - examinations marriage or parenthood new job or business public speaking to lead to rest Yet we still dive in, lest the ultra-important ones that we wait and see (hopefully not until we die). Many procrastinate because…

Taking stock of life (and death) at the brink of 40 — Someone asked me recently if I was happy with my thirties, it then dawned on me indeed that I am almost done with my thirties (39 to be precise). I was somewhat surprised that I felt a twinge of pride because I have yet to get used to the fact…